Is it waking up early to make your girlfriend breakfast and packing her lunch that includes half of your own pizza and leftover wings (he picked out all of the wing parts that are his favorite too and gave them to me)?

I think so. Love through chicken wings. Love you babe!

What I learned is that my friend is dating an asshole that spent half the night hitting on me and I had to blow up his spot. I can’t stand dickheads. He tries to dance with me in front of her, and I am clearly not comfortable and she says it’s ok. NO, it’s NOT OK. He kept coming behind me and tipping me on the shoulder like I’m supposed to pay attention to him in front of her and it was sickening. He kept talking about, “do you want to see me naked” or “has your friend told you how big my foot is (referring ot his member)”, and the kicker is when I’m in the car with her and he starts rubbing my shoulders. I had had enough. I asked him, “Shouldn’t you be rubbing her shoulders, not mine?” She of course was not happy (nor was I), but I couldn’t let this go on. She needed to know what was going on and that it was not ok. Why are men such pigs. I told him exactly what I thought of him in front of his friends, and I said he needed to learn some respect… does nobody respect anyone anymore? I told him, “No, I don’t to see you naked and a guy’s dick size doesn’t mean anything (a.k.a. quit talking about it).” And he said, “Well, don’t girls like a guy with BIG cockiness or something (again, referring to his you know what), and I said, “Usually a guy trying to compensate with their big cockiness means they really have a little COCKiness.” He was even asking my friend, in front of everyone like he was announcing it, if they were going to go home and do you know what. I couldn’t take it. I told him where to go and told him needs to show some freakin’ respect for her and the people around. What the hell is that? I told my friend that he is not a good guy and she needs to watch herself… she’s going to get hurt. Why do guys now think that’s cute? I wanted to slug him. And what’s funny is that the more I did this to him, the more he kept coming back for more. Maybe he’s one of those guys that has girls throwing themselves at him and I didn’t do it so it was fun for him to “chase”. I don’t know. I couldn’t stand it and I didn’t want my friend to be hurt. I felt like I was back in high school with the jock guys that thought they were all that and would ask me to wear their football jerseys (like I am supposed to be honored), and then they were upset when I turned them down. I guess hard to get is the way to get attention, but that’s certainly not what I was trying to achieve. I wanted him to quit acting like an immature ass, because it was at my friend’s expense. Apparently these types of guys aren’t ready for a real woman that knows how she (and others) should be treated, and isn’t afraid to say so!

The only guy I had decent conversation with was a Vietnamese guy that I could barely understand who worked for Phillip Morris. Of course, I am thinking networking (at a college-like party–I know, I’m lame, but that’s what I was thinking). And of course it ends in him trying to get my number… and I’m sure it is not to get me a job. This is what is wrong with men and why good girls cannot find a decent one. If you want to get anywhere with me, try talking to me and not pull the “do you think I’m sexy line.” How lame is that! I’m not even looking for anyone and I have to be faced with this crap. Unfortunately, too many of the guys left feeling like I was probably a bitch, but I don’t care. They need to learn that this is not appropriate behavior and they should grow up. And what’s fucked up is that these people were my age and older… come on, seriously? Can’t they try to act like adults? Maybe that’s asking for too much in today’s society.

And if you don’t mind, please keep my Aunt Leona in your arms during her difficult time with breast cancer. She has her masectamy (sp?) this week and I am worried for her. Please watch over her and give her the strength to fight. Please give her family the strength and love they deserve to get through this. And I know this is a lot to ask, but would you mind making sure that the doctors get it all and it doesn’t come back?

And while I’m asking for a few things, could you please stop giving me the worst year of my life? They say you don’t give us more than we can handle… I’m telling you, this is all more than I can handle and I would appreciate it if you could let up a little bit. I get that I need to make changes, and I am working on it.

Amen.

I haven’t posted anything on the recent events at Virginia Tech on April 16, 2007, because I didn’t really know what to say. It is a tragic thing to lose so many lives, and especially so many that are so young. One of the girls was from my town here. It hit us hard because we live only 2-3 hours away from where this took place. VCU is nearby and they have been honoring those fallen. Yesterday was Virginia Tech Day and everywhere that you went people were wearing maroon and yellow. Even the Boston Red Sox carried a small VT logo on their uniforms yesterday. It is scary and unfortunate and I will never understand what could bring someone to do something so cruel. Right now I just want to ask people to pray for the families, friends, and faculty of Virginia Tech. There are some amazing photos on the front of their website, which has now changed too. They thank everyone who came to help, list the names of the fallen, and this quote:

We will continue to invent the future through our blood and tears and through all our sadness … We will prevail …
  — Nikki Giovanni, University Distinguished Professor, poet, activist