http://www.piecesofe.com/2007/09/04/utter-despair/ Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:00:37 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.piecesofe.com/2007/09/04/utter-despair/comment-page-1/#comment-5631 Lisa Thu, 06 Sep 2007 14:54:28 +0000 http://www.piecesofe.com/?p=190#comment-5631 I think part of the reason we feel so much pain when we lose someone this way is because we don't like to be wrong. We only want to see "the one that got away" in a perfect light as we position them up on their pedestal. We want to believe in all the dreams we had with this person, even if the reality is far different. David is human, as we all are, and he has "effed" you up. He is not your perfect mate, otherwise he would be trying to work through this with you, he would be remorseful for his behavior and would not continue to hurt you. The biggest favor he could do for you right now is piss you off once and for all and help you see him for what he is. (Please stop blaming yourself for pushing him away - this is a classic "it's not you, it's me" scenario and the truth is it IS him.) It's hard to remember just how bad all the bad stuff is when your heart is breaking. When you are ready, you will recognize that you are far better off without his baggage, his damage, his flaws and him. (Again, time is your friend.) Don't give up on true love Erin, it's real and you will find it. Do give up on a future with this guy. You may never completely get over this pain and will never be able to fully forgive and forget his actions. You will, however, find someone who "walks the talk" and wants to love you for the extraordinary person you are. But before you can find true happiness, you have to let go of this tragically imperfect guy who can't give you what you want and deserve in a partner. Until then, look to your family and friends for your support and happiness. They are your future and there are lot of good times to be had! Take care of yourself, pal. Lisa I think part of the reason we feel so much pain when we lose someone this way is because we don’t like to be wrong. We only want to see “the one that got away” in a perfect light as we position them up on their pedestal. We want to believe in all the dreams we had with this person, even if the reality is far different. David is human, as we all are, and he has “effed” you up. He is not your perfect mate, otherwise he would be trying to work through this with you, he would be remorseful for his behavior and would not continue to hurt you. The biggest favor he could do for you right now is piss you off once and for all and help you see him for what he is. (Please stop blaming yourself for pushing him away – this is a classic “it’s not you, it’s me” scenario and the truth is it IS him.) It’s hard to remember just how bad all the bad stuff is when your heart is breaking. When you are ready, you will recognize that you are far better off without his baggage, his damage, his flaws and him. (Again, time is your friend.) Don’t give up on true love Erin, it’s real and you will find it. Do give up on a future with this guy. You may never completely get over this pain and will never be able to fully forgive and forget his actions. You will, however, find someone who “walks the talk” and wants to love you for the extraordinary person you are. But before you can find true happiness, you have to let go of this tragically imperfect guy who can’t give you what you want and deserve in a partner. Until then, look to your family and friends for your support and happiness. They are your future and there are lot of good times to be had! Take care of yourself, pal. Lisa

]]> http://www.piecesofe.com/2007/09/04/utter-despair/comment-page-1/#comment-5630 Mom Thu, 06 Sep 2007 13:33:45 +0000 http://www.piecesofe.com/?p=190#comment-5630 I wish so much I was there to hug you and tell you it will be all right. I know it doesn't feel like it now but it will. Take it one step at a time. I dunno why this has happened but it brought you to a great job, and you have friends and family that care so very much for you. I guess it would be nice to know that someone that you spent six years with had some compassion and love enough to understand how difficult Monday was for you. As always I pray for you and ask that God will bless you with joy and happiness soon. Hang in there Erin. I love you. I wish so much I was there to hug you and tell you it will be all right. I know it doesn’t feel like it now but it will. Take it one step at a time. I dunno why this has happened but it brought you to a great job, and you have friends and family that care so very much for you. I guess it would be nice to know that someone that you spent six years with had some compassion and love enough to understand how difficult Monday was for you. As always I pray for you and ask that God will bless you with joy and happiness soon.
Hang in there Erin. I love you.

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