I Got the Job & Other Stuff

August 17th, 2007 Posted in Announcements

So, I got the call yesterday that I was the one chosen out of 70 people! The funny thing is that the guy told me I was the weakest of all the candidates on the system side, but as far as communication with potential clients, “I blew them out of the water” (direct quote). So this is a huge stepping stone for me… $55K with quarterly profit sharing, and I can pick whatever health, dental and vision plans I want and the will pay on TOP of my $55 for that. It is a start up company so there isn’t a whole lot in place yet and I will be like a contracter for a while, but I’m ok with that (I think). I’m going to be making over $60K, probably over $65K with the profit sharing, and I get a $1,000 signing bonus if I start Monday. Oh, and they are getting me some sort of pda phone. I am really excited and finally feel like I got a job that I deserved! I’m going to be a Creative Director… now that’s HOT shit! I just hope I can give them everything they want, because I am one of four people starting this thing and the content that runs on these tv servers will all be me… pretty much my creative visions will make or break the company. The other cool thing is that they have already had one offer from another company to buy, although they are not going to right now, but in three years if the price is right… I get a percentage! I guess sometimes you have to find a way to make yourself rich. I just hope that I can come through. I might have to buy some more clothes though because we are financially backed by the guy that pretty much owns this town and we have meetings with some very big people, including the guy who owns the airport down here! I’m hoping to meet some really successful people and I hope that I can impress them. I’m a little nervous that the fate of this company kinda rides on me, but I think I’m pretty talented and so does my new boss. I haven’t signed yet because I am doing research on healthcare, etc., but I think I’ll be starting Monday. And La, you’ll love this… Probably next week sometime I’ll need to fly to Kansas City for some training on this system!

I think I am going to continue to live with my aunt for a couple of months to play catch-up, especially on my credit card which has taken a beating, and try to add back to my savings. Also, the new company is in a temporary location and I don’t know where they might relocate to, so I have to see where I might want to live. Then, maybe in 2-3 months, I am going to start looking at a house to purchase and make my own! What’s nice is that NC is very affordable and where I am living now is BEAUTIFUL! I guess I counted on someone else to help make it happen, when really I just needed to make it happen on my own. My dreams are finally coming true (well, minus one).

In other news, today was the day six years ago that I met the love of my life! I wish that he was still in my life and it makes me very sad because I know that I will never find the connection with someone that I had with him. He swept me off my feet with his handsome looks, incredible charm, and gorgeous smile and brown eyes. I thought I had met the man I would spend the rest of my life with. And maybe somewhere we can reconnect, but I miss him and it makes me sad to know that i found complete happiness with someone so long ago that is no longer here. David, if you are reading… I still love you and always will. I still believe that we are soulmates and that God put us together. Please find a way back to me so that we can have our true love back… I really do think you only get one and I love you. Happy Anniversary, or what would have been.

  1. 32 Responses to “I Got the Job & Other Stuff”

  2. By David on Aug 17, 2007

    Andy and Missy got married on the 18TH! 2Morrow would have been 6 years not today…
    Some impression I made… anyway, congratulation on the job!

  3. By Mom on Aug 18, 2007

    You did make an impression David… then cut and ran! That certainly made a HUGE impression! Thanks for showing that you understand about love and commitment! Seems you forgot about September 3rd! Imagine what impression that will make on Erin for the rest of her life!

  4. By Mom on Aug 18, 2007

    Yanno… i sit here and i am in UTTER disbelief that my daughter is pouring out her feelings to you David and that is your response??? Where is your comment to wish her a Happy Anniversary HUH??? You make issue with a date instead of the content and message she is trying to convey. I have tried real hard not to make comments David, but this is only more proof that you are the problem, and i am sick to death of you always turning things around on Erin. Erin has a firm grip on reality and what relationships are based on, how to pay bills, how to stand up and take control of her life, and i think it’s time you took responsibility for all YOUR shortcomings. I have yet to hear you take ANY blame for what went wrong, nor offer apology. Much of what stressed Erin out was due directly to your failure to take care of your responsibilities. This best be the last time i EVER see or hear another dig by you towards her. What i do not understand is… you are so quick to look at one thing instead of all the wonderful things she is and does. When do you ever look at her strengths? Those FAR outweigh her being stressed out. I think maybe it’s time you took stock of your own growth areas and quit trying to dissect me and our family. We have a pretty solid family with a lot of love and kindness. That is something you have not demonstrated through this whole mess!

    Erin.. i apologize for using your blog to make this statement but you have to understand, i will no longer watch or read any derogatory comments made about you… especially on YOUR website!

  5. By Kristina on Aug 18, 2007

    Nice said mom. I have tried not leave comments myself, eventhough I have a lot to say to David too. You said it perfectly.

    Erin, congragulations…although, I knew you would be ok in life. You have always been a strong, and intelligent beautiful woman. You have taught me many things about life and if it wasn’t for you, I would still be sitting in a bar somewhere drunk. You have turned my life around and made me a stronger person. Take some of the advice you have given me over the years and hang in there. You have wasted too much time, strength and tears over a selfish, no good loser. Mr. Right is out there, and your life is going to be wonderful. I love you!!!

  6. By Erin on Aug 18, 2007

    I always thought it was the 17th… I’m sorry. You did make an impression on me… although lately, not much good. You left me with a lot of wonderful memories that are now very painful. I have tried and tried to cling to what we had and what I loved about you, but I am the only one hanging on. That makes me incredibly sad.

    Be good mom.

  7. By La on Aug 18, 2007

    David is showing his true colors…now I’ll show mine.
    I talked with a friend of mine whose wife is a lawyer- we had dinner, I told her about the cell phone situation, she is willing to send a letter to BOSE (on company letter head, largest firm in KC) and then help me sue David if necessary- I will leave you like you left my niece- no job, no home but the one difference- she has a family who will fight for her. SO if you lose your job David- I don’t care, and Erin has nothing to do with this and can’t stop me. SO pay the bill by the due date or I send the letter to your corporate office- how does that feel? See David, a pissed of Dyke is nothing to mess with.
    Erin- you don’t have to apologize any more- you did not do this, your mother did not do this, David did this because he doesn’t want to pay his bills, his taxes or take care of things that matter- like you. I know it hurts but let this go, I promise one day you’ll look back and say- “What the fuck was I thinking?”

  8. By David on Aug 20, 2007

    WOW! Over react much? Erin knows me and knows more than everyone on here that the comments I made were in Gest. Relax! As for the “Pissed off Dyke…” well I don’t know what to say. I love you to! Have a Great day.

  9. By Mom on Aug 24, 2007

    OVERREACT? NO, David, i think our reaction is mild considering what you have done to Erin and our family. Maybe you can afford to squander money away, have a piss poor credit rating, run away from bills and responsibilities, bounce checks, move my child into the ghetto compromising her safety and sanity, put $1200.00 on HER cell bill causing her even MORE worry (which we WILL go after if you do not pay it) and break her heart in ways none of us will ever be able to comprehend. How do you wake up one day and your whole world is gone due to something that was not even your choice? Erin has suffered due to YOUR choices and mismanagement of finances as well as your failure to work on problems and follow through on commitments. She stayed in it, good and bad, better or worse and is STILL trying… still loving you. Those words that married couples speak have meaning… they are not just token verbage David! We plunked down a lot of money on YOUR wedding to have you run away like a coward when the announcements were going to go out! People bought plane tickets and bought gifts and clothing and food etc. Maybe we will take you to court to get damages and sue you for the costs incurred PLUS for the pain and suffering you have caused! We TRUSTED that you were sincere in your commitment and desire to marry Erin, and love her, and build a life WITH her. Instead you had her Dad and I have to tell her you were ending it. So courage is not a part of your character either. Then you pointed the finger of blame at everyone but yourself in the aftermath. Quite frankly, the wrong person is in therapy. YOU are the one that needs psychiatric help in coping with REAL world situations and adulthood. YOU made racial remarks of Erin… NEVER did our family make them of you. You showed more grief over losing a flat screen TV than you did losing Erin.

    Love you?? No David, my family does not love you let alone like you much these days. My wish is that Erin will see you for what and who you really are. My wish is that she will emerge a stronger person and wiser one who is able to have a full and satisfying life with someone who will worship her and love her and comfort her and stand by her side till “death do us part.” As far as having a great day? NO David, we don’t have those either because we all suffer knowing how devastated and hurt and impacted Erin is by your cowardice. You managed to take EVERYTHING away from her! Great days are no longer something any of us have. Maybe you do… now that you have “YOUR” life back. “Gest…” (sp) nothing about any of this was said by you in jest David. What really kills me is how cavalier you are about all of this. It’s all a big joke to you. Have you ANY understanding how badly you have hurt Erin? Do you? I really want to know.

    (Hector, i know you read this so i am sorry that this is not warm and fuzzy, and positive, but watching my child ache and suffer… there are no words or emotions strong enough here… sorry! Your brother has a lot of growing up to do, apology to send and responsibility to learn about. You and Tracy are the ONLY ones in your family that have shown any sympathy for what Erin is going through. I know she treasures your friendship and your positive words have been VERY much appreciated, but right now i feel angry and maybe someday you will understand when Zoe has a man break her heart and have no remorse in doing so. You will die inside.)

  10. By La on Aug 24, 2007

    You forget I’m a therapist David- this bullsgit might fly with some but not me. Jest my ass! And I forgot you probably have seen a dyke get mad since there is one in your family too. Overreact… you ain’t seen nothing yet and probably don’t want to run into me or most of my family again. And I am oh so serious about the bill.

  11. By Hector on Aug 26, 2007

    Hello Kim, Tracy & I love Erin & do value her friendship. she can call anytime, we’ll always have an open door for her & she knows that. things don’t need 2b warm & fuzzy, life isn’t warm & fuzzy. While I can’t relate 2 your position (& w/ all do respect, hope we never have 2) I can understand your anger & hurt. as for David, he is my brother & good, bad, or indifferent I love him. We may not always agree on things or see eye 2eye (I’m always preaching 2 him) but he is my blood, so yes sometimes these things hurt, but not 4 his sake, they hurt me 4 Erin’s sake. I fear if Erin gets everything she wants in life, incl David, all these things (on this site) could be detrimental (sp?) 2 that fragile relashionship. I’m not saying they don’t need 2b said, in fact I’m staying out of it! We’re here for BOTH of them (we’re good listeners) if they need 2talk. I’m just saying those words can sometimes hurt the 1 we’re trying 2protect more than the 1 they’re aimed at. I certainly hope thats not the case here.And yes we do have 1 in our family & I love my mother dearly (and trust me I’ve felt her wrath!). we (David & I) tend 2 use humor as a coping mechanism (referring to his comment in jest), knowing him I believe it was meant in jest. U have 2 understand, we didn’t grow up in a middle class or have a stable home-life. we grew up poor, w/ a woman who had to raise 2 kids on her own, who was stretched 2 such limits (and abusive), I don’t know how avoided having a nervous breakdown. I think if it weren’t for David my mother wouldn’t be here today! but I ended up raising him, all we ever had was each other, mom was busy working 2 jobs. so we are a little more jaded at times & humor as bad as it is at times is our escape, so I’ll apologize, its just that life hasn’t been quite as kind to us growing up, I hope u know I love u all… (or is y’all, Erin?) :o )

  12. By Hector on Aug 26, 2007

    my intentions aren’t to anger or hurt anyone, so if anything in my last post did that, then I am sorry. just wanted to ge that out there. also I’m typing this out on a phone, with no spell checker :)

  13. By Mom on Aug 26, 2007

    Hi Hector,

    Please understand, Clark and I have never had anything but respect for your Mom. I like your Mom and I understand how very hard she works. I am hurt that through this she made no effort to contact Erin or us. It is very hurtful. It really sent a message that she doesn’t love or care for Erin.

    I have a sister who is gay and I am proud of her, and love her with all my heart and soul, and love her companion of many many years. I have made no racial slanders towards David, nor any of your Mom. What upsets me here, is that David’s treatment of my daughter has been horrible through the worst time of her life. He claims he loves Erin, yet refuses to get counseling, and he has had blatant disrespect of me and my family when all we ever did was love him, and accept him, despite six years of his failure to pay attention to money issues and tax issues and things that were needful of his attention. At Erin’s lowest point he did not care if she had a roof over her head, nor food on the table, nor did he care if her heart was broken by his choices. How do you wait until you have a biz trip and then call your fiance’s parents to end a relationship? How are we supposed to feel? I cannot even begin to tell you the pain we felt and feel. We are still reeling! I sobbed the whole eight and a half hrs it took to drive to Richmond. I had to be the one to look into my daughter’s eyes and see the shock and utter devastation. EVERYTHING crumbled… her self esteem…her joy… everything! This was to be HER moment… her wedding, her chance for happiness with the man she loved, trusted and counted on to spend an lifetime with.

    Through this she has shown that she is a courageous woman and has shown strength I am awed at. But for me as a parent, I cannot sit quietly and watch David attempt to make funny jokes at something that is far from funny to us. This is MY child!!! My blood. The child I carried in my womb and watched grow and cared for and nurtured and loved and tried to build self esteem only to now have someone whack away at it through selfish motivations. He made a commitment and then renigged. I would have had a thousand times more respect for him if he would have postponed the wedding and gone to seek counseling WITH Erin. She was taught responsibility (and learned some hard lessons about money and what it is to have a good credit rating) but she should not have to be punished for that! And that is exactly what David did.

    Also, please understand this… I went through the first seven years of my life with a Mom who worked three jobs to support three kids. I had a biological father who decided that he wanted his life back too, and raising kids and having bills and a wife wasn’t “cool.” So yes, I know well about abandonment. But God blessed us with my Dad (Ken.) This man showed us morals and values and responsibility and standing on your own two feet (that is my hardest lesson to learn!) and so many other things… value of education, reputation, focus upon the things that as adults we had to learn and pay attention to. When David demonstrated inability to pay bills, etc., we worried, but I honestly thought (and was on his side as Erin can attest) once he lived with her he would begin to understand the importance of what it was to pay his bills on time so there was no late charges and fees, etc. that seemed to eat away all his money. He did not learn a thing and then turned this around on Erin because she had to saddle the brunt of the stress and worry over the bills, the wedding, getting addresses, where to live, how to pack to move, getting a new job, etc. He wanted to throw away six years for six weeks of her going over the edge at times. UNFAIR! Half of her stress wa shis failure to take care of his end of things! Even now… he racked up $1200.00 on her cell phone bill… would you not swallow your tongue over those kinds of charges? It’s not my bill and I surely did!!! And it was personal calls and some were to another woman… so… can you sit there and blame us that we get angry at his joking about any of this?? I guess I must have a weird sense of humor!

    I wish so much we would be able to talk to you. Clark and I like you guys and we will miss that we will not have the opportunity to get to know you even better as in laws. I am sorry if the responses here hurt you in any way. This was not meant to hurt anyone … but nothing said here was untrue. If David has a problem with reading in print what he has done, well… CHANGE behaviors! I hope he will seek therapy to face his problems and not run away and he will learn fiscal management. I cannot enable Erin through her choices, so I am sure not gonna sit here and enable David! And also I need you to understand, we loved David as a son… I am profoundly heartbroken over all of this. Maybe David did Erin a favor. Well, now I can say He did. I want more for her. I know she loves him, but she deserves more than what he put her through and us also the past five weeks. I want to know her future will be a happy joyful one with a house and children and a man at her side that she can count on and hold and KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that he will be there through the good and the bad and the struggles that we as adults face.

    I know I can be blunt, and menopausal most days… but Erin is everything to me. She is my child and my best friend. She and her sister are the joy of my life (and my husband’s.) She is so deserving of happily ever after.
    Thanks to you and Tracy for being good listeners and again I am appreciative for the positive words you leave on her blog. Maybe I need to grab a copy of that book you are reading! Stay cool!

  14. By La on Aug 27, 2007

    What I know from reading all this is…we love these people and we hurt when they hurt. Sometimes that hurt turns to anger and sometimes things get said, misunderstood or intentions seem unclear.
    I do agree with you Hector, this all could come back to bite us if Erin and David get back together (which is what she hopes will happen). Sometimes you just need a place to vent, sometimes after you vent- you wish you could take it back (gotta love delete). After talking with Erin tonight I know I will be more careful on what I say- I love her dearly, I am her Godmother and want only the best. Thanks for the reminder that we need to be kinder. (PS- there was no disrespect to your mother- I’m gay and it wasn’t a slam- more of an explanation of why I was so pissed off).
    At school with the kids I teach them about PEACE- though I don’t know where your brother will end up in my life, I will extend peaceful thoughts to my nieces web page!

  15. By Erin on Aug 27, 2007

    Ya know, I’ve always wanted a lot of people to comment on my webpage, and although a lot of people read my webpage, no one used to comment. I’m glad people are posting, but please all try to be respectful of all parties involved. Hector is right mom… it is hurtful when you slam David. And I have done it too b/c sometimes I don’t know how else to cope. What David and I do is between David and I, and although I love advice, many comments on here have not been that. Please just try to be sensitive. David is hurting too and does still love me and I know without a doubt that he never meant anyone to be hurt. He made a decision, maybe initially in haste, but it turned out to be one that got me a great job in a great place. And although I don’t agree with calling off our relationship, I DO agree with calling off the wedding. There were issues that need to be resolved on both our parts… I do disagree that we should settle them apart though, and we are working on things. And even though nobody thinks I should, it is MY choice and David’s choice to work through this if we want to. I don’t give up, and I don’t think David has yet either. That’s why we are still talking and seeing where things go. If we make it, I truly believe we will have the best relationship possible for going through it. And yes, i do want him back and love him… we may not have said “I do”, but I was still his wife (that’s what he called me adn even introduced me to people as) and he was still my husband and we will try to work it out. But in the meantime, everyone please be respectful and patient with us.

  16. By Mom on Aug 27, 2007

    wife:
    noun 1. a woman joined in marriage to a man; a woman considered in relation to her husband; spouse.

    Is there something you are not telling me? When did i miss the marriage part?

  17. By Mom on Aug 28, 2007

    Erin I know what will bring lots of comments… you need to have a controversial topic like Bush to rant and rave over! Politics always makes for interesting conversation!

    Thank you for the good phone call tonight. I love you very much.

  18. By TBD on Aug 29, 2007

    One question that no one has really addressed….if, in fact, David has a company phone (as Erin has mentioned to me), who in the world is he calling to run up a $1200 bill? Phone calls between Erin and David (on the same plan) should not be charged, correct? Even if you go over your minutes, it shouldn’t be THAT much! hmmm…

    Erin, not to be hurtful, but playing house for a few months does not make you husband and wife. You were barely boyfriend/girlfriend living in separate states, which evidently he prefers so he can have his cake and eat it too!

  19. By Hector on Aug 29, 2007

    the phone bill could be from being out of town. Even if you are the same plan, the roaming fees for out of US is crazy. For example, if David was in Canada and Erin was in US, the charge per minute could be as much $.99 a minute or more, and I’m sure it’s probably $1.49 a minute or more when in Mexico. Once when I was in Dubai, to call home it was something like $3.49 a minute or some RIDICULOUS price, thank GOD it was a business phone and I got pre-approval for it. And when we went to DR it was something like $1.99 a minute. Talk about talking fast…loveyabye!! (no time for spaces;)

  20. By Hector on Aug 30, 2007

    Kim, you and Clarke can call me anytime, whats happened between Erin and David shouldn’t effect you calling me. Erin has my number. I consider you guys family!

    I remember when my father was taken from us. I literally went from having friends one day, and the next day (after the headlines in the paper) I was practically a leper (at least after the last period school bell rang). I went from having dozens of friends, to being able to counting them on one hand (not including the thumb or pinky finger). Sure I had friends during “school hours”, they just couldn’t talk to me AFTER school. No matter, it made me a stronger and better person, and made me realize just how many “friends” I really had.

    You don’t strike me as the type of person that would be mad at me for something someone else in my family did or didn’t do so don’t feel like you can’t call me. The only reason I wouldn’t initiate the call is so that you could call me when you were open to talking to me. Meaning I wouldn’t want to catch you on a bad day (remember David and I sound alike on the phone!)

    But I also have a crazy schedule so I’m not always able to answer my phone (if I’m running appointments), but if you leave me a message with your phone number I promise I’ll call back.

    I can’t speak for my mother, but can only assume the reason she hasn’t called isn’t because she doesn’t care for Erin, I know for a fact she loves her dearly, it could be that she’s at a loss for what to say. (I know thats hard to believe, my mother not having anything to say) but knowing the pain Erin is going through, what would she say? My mother doesn’t deal with situation like that very well, so she avoids them, this much I know. Me, well I’m just me, so please feel free to call me if you like, like I said, I still consider all you guys family.

  21. By Erin on Aug 31, 2007

    So that’s where David gets the “avoiding situations” from… guess he learned that well. David does not face anything that is difficult. And I’m not saying this to be mean at all… it’s just true and now I know where he gets it from. You cannot avoid painful situations and problems. They will constantly come up again and again and attack you later down the road. You need to face those things and deal with them, work them out. Avoiding them only makes it worse. And if avoiding things is really his answer, then he’ll never really find success, happiness, love, etc. Those things take work and are not always going to be “smooth sailing.” Avoiding all of his bills has landed him with no credit (which also means no cars, no house, etc.), not taking care of his taxes for three years left him with heavy fines and problems every year that he files, plus other things. You cannot avoid things in order for them to get better.

  22. By Hector on Aug 31, 2007

    well, like I said I can’t speak for my mother, and I especially can’t speak for David but from what I know of him as a brother, he’s not one to avoid situations. he might not be the most responsible person on the planet but i’m sure not having a father figure around didn’t help. luckily for me my wife was the responsible one and stuck with me while I grew up (although she might say I still have a ways to go :) . but I agree running doesn’t solve anything, but facing things on the internet isn’t exactly the best policy either. I just don’t believe in airing ones dirty laundry for everyone else to see and read. I’m sure everyone reading this has done at least ONE thing in their lifetime that they’re not proud of and cerainly wouldn’t want it to be aired on the internet for everyone to read (myself included) so hopefully you two can work things out either as a couple or as friends, in private, and come to an understanding of some sort. I want the best for both of you, even if those things aren’t the same thing (sounds confusing as hell but I hope you’re following me).

  23. By Mom on Aug 31, 2007

    I don’t mean to sound harsh here, but, I think that if Erin needs to vent here on her web page, she should be able to say whatever it is that she is feeling. (She does pay to have this blogI) I do understand about sensativity, but that can lead me into another rant so….. I will behave. I also think part of the healing process is anger and if it helps to get it out… go for it E! It seems a pretty healthy way to vent in my opinion.

    There are three stages to the healing process that I have read of.

    1.) Awareness. She is doing that in seeking counseling for her end of things.

    2.) Expression. I think Marty is helping her there, as is being able to come here and write down her emotions and begin to accept this…. whatever “this” is. Is there a nice word for what “this” is? Being able to talk about a feeling(s) is also a good first step. When we feel sadness or anger, instead of trying to avoid or deny those feelings, we notice them or express them out loud, which can help as well.

    3.) Resolution. I think in order to do this she needs to have a place to express what she is feeling. I am no psychologist, (Karen, maybe you can help in that area) but I do know that being able to write and express, and read words of encouragement from others (support) will assist in helping Erin heal.

    I know that you are sympathetic of David, but I feel if this is a place where Erin can express how she feels, then she should be able to do so. There is a small contingent of people that come here and those that do are aware of the situation.

    To the comment above about “barely boyfriend/girlfriend…” I wish to add that Erin and David were engaged three years. I think that would constitute more than BF/GF. It implied a promise!

  24. By Hector on Sep 1, 2007

    I agree, anger is part of the healing process, as is expression and resolution. what I was hoping to convey was my own opinion, that resolving something like this on a blog might not be the best way to do it. I didn’t say it was wrong, and if its the only way then by all means exploit anything you have. in my personal experiences during certain challenges in the past I didn’t have a blog, I had a friend, someone I could lean on and confide in and they listened and offered support, I think if I would have had a blog things wouldn’t have turned out as they did, and I am happier now (in my personal life) than I have been in a while. so please understand I was speaking from my own experience

  25. By Hector on Sep 1, 2007

    damn phone submitted comment before I was done :( as for siding with David, I’m not siding with anyone, david is my my brother, so good bad or indifferent I will love him and help him in any way I can, but that doesn’t mean I side with him. hels a big boy and can make and live by his own decisions and actions, me, I can just offer advice and hopefully guidance based on my own life experiences, what he does with it is up to him. I’m sure Erin will tell you I’ve been very neutral on this. like I said before I have never walked a day in either one of their shoes so I don’t know what they’re going through, other than hearing their sides of the story. I never said anything about boyfriend or girlfriend, it must not have come across as I intended (thats the other bad thing about words on a page, 80% of their meaning is in their delivery, the body language, the inflection, the conviction, none of which can be captured here, which leads me back to the blog deal, I just feel in person or at least over the phone can be more effective, but perhaps La (sorry don’t know her name) can speak more on words and body language vs blog (she mentioned she was a therapist so I’m sure she knows what I mean). back to the bf/gf deal, what I meant to convey was that I hope they can work out something between them where they can either be a happy couple, as they were (only better of course) or to agree to disagree and split as friends (not bf/gf). it almost sounded as if you thought I was trivialising (sp?) their relationship, which definately was not the case. ( if I half a ton of speling erors its cuz inglish was mi secund languige:)

  26. By Mom on Sep 1, 2007

    The bf/gf thing was posted by TBD (?) Just wanted to clear up that i feel Erin and David had more to their relationship than simply “playing house a few months.” (Sorry that was not directed at your post Hector.) La is Karen by the way. We all start with K’s. Kim, Karen, Kelly, Kenny, Kris, Kay and Kevin! Try saying that fast three times! LOL!

  27. By Mom on Sep 1, 2007

    We have these lovely nicknames also…. If you ever see anyone use the name Farley or Mim that’s me! La is Karen. Kelsie is Bibbie. Delaney is LuLu or Lanie Lu. My Dad is Chief and my Mom is Hot Mama or Slivie D! Kenny is Nen. I call Erin Luce or E or Airzinn. Beth is Basie, Baze, or Basie Boo. Kay is Kacie or Shmay. Kris’s bf calls her Stella! Clark is called Cark until the little people can actually say Clark, but I call him C. Kameron is called Hootch or Kam Bob Bill! We can all be a little bit weird! LOL! Did i forget anyone else’s nickname??

  28. By Mom on Sep 1, 2007

    Oh yeah, Sue is Cruella or Sushie! Mailin is Matty or Matilda, Tildy, Matty Moo or Cousin in the yellow shirt!!

  29. By Mom on Sep 1, 2007

    Darian is D or Dee Bird and Kelsie used to be called Crazy Hair and is also called Kelsaroni. Sarah is Bean. Bob is Biglet. Okay now did i forget any?? LOL… geesh… I need to write all these names down someplace!

  30. By Hector on Sep 1, 2007

    omg, my nickname is a spanish one so I won’t share it here b/c it doesn’t translate well (anyone who reads this and knows it is laughing right now) but the english names mother gave me (usually when she was @ the end of her rope) were quite colorful & long, ones like “youlittlesonofabitch” of course at times I agreed w/ her. then there was “youlittlebastard”. But the names paled in comparrison to the fun games we played. You can keep your pictionary junior & monopoly, we had games like “DUCK”. this is where you chase one child around with a long, hard, bat-like object & when you get close enough to him & his little brother you yell duck so David, I mean the little brother, doesn’t get hit with thing. also there was “the door knocker” game, where one child rolls his eyes at you & tries to do it w/o getting caught. however if you get busted mom takes her 4in heel & proceeds to use it on your skull, much like a door knocker. we played classics like “bet you can’t break that broomstick over my back” I lost that one of course! & finally, last but not least was “dash & thrash” this is where the child strips down to there undies (to encourage a faster dash) & the mom chases you as you dash through the house trying to avoid the leathery thrash of the belt as it whooshes through the air @ you. my fondest memory was the ONE time David actually chimed in, jealous he was never included in ANY of these games (he was too young, participation reserved for kids 8 and up I think) & so I dashed under the covers to avoid the impending thrashes (pic tazmanian devil, then put belt in his hand) & he laid chase & spoke up, jealous fool, so Taz spun around & gave him a very well placed thrash across the face. luckily for him time had run out & the game was over, cuz he dropped to the floor, not realizing he was suppose to run, silly kids. oh the good ole days!! (see what I mean about our “humor” but at least we’re all laughing about it now)

  31. By Mom on Sep 3, 2007

    This made me cry. I wish so much that you would have been sparred those kind of “games” as a child. I guess what I really don’t get is why David would not want to be a part of a family that has such immense quantity of love to give. He was always accepted and considered part of our family, both DiSanto and Culver. All I can say Hector is I am sorry. I know that is no consolation. I send a virtual hug.

  32. By Hector on Sep 3, 2007

    that which does not kill me can only make me stronger, and it has. in life I’ve learned that no matter what life throws at you, you have to keep your head up and keep treading water. its like you tread water and the hard things in life are like weights added to your load, and if you just keep treading water you will inevitably get stronger…that is life lesson. dorrie (finding nemo) said it best “just keep swimming…..”

  33. By Mom on Sep 24, 2007

    Heh… don’t you just love Dorrie!

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