And I’m supposed to enjoy this…

So I called a friend and went out with her tonight, and I did have fun and it made me feel better about myself, but I cannot stand what I am now faced with. We went to a party and at least 5 of the guys there hit on me… a few actually made a decent attempt to talk to me, but it always came down to, “You’re such a pretty girl and you should call me.” What the F*$%. They were all drunk (wasted might be a better term) and they all sucked (I felt like I was at a college frat party all over again)! I am not a piece of friggin’ meat… talk to me like a human. I don’t want this.

What I learned is that my friend is dating an asshole that spent half the night hitting on me and I had to blow up his spot. I can’t stand dickheads. He tries to dance with me in front of her, and I am clearly not comfortable and she says it’s ok. NO, it’s NOT OK. He kept coming behind me and tipping me on the shoulder like I’m supposed to pay attention to him in front of her and it was sickening. He kept talking about, “do you want to see me naked” or “has your friend told you how big my foot is (referring ot his member)”, and the kicker is when I’m in the car with her and he starts rubbing my shoulders. I had had enough. I asked him, “Shouldn’t you be rubbing her shoulders, not mine?” She of course was not happy (nor was I), but I couldn’t let this go on. She needed to know what was going on and that it was not ok. Why are men such pigs. I told him exactly what I thought of him in front of his friends, and I said he needed to learn some respect… does nobody respect anyone anymore? I told him, “No, I don’t to see you naked and a guy’s dick size doesn’t mean anything (a.k.a. quit talking about it).” And he said, “Well, don’t girls like a guy with BIG cockiness or something (again, referring to his you know what), and I said, “Usually a guy trying to compensate with their big cockiness means they really have a little COCKiness.” He was even asking my friend, in front of everyone like he was announcing it, if they were going to go home and do you know what. I couldn’t take it. I told him where to go and told him needs to show some freakin’ respect for her and the people around. What the hell is that? I told my friend that he is not a good guy and she needs to watch herself… she’s going to get hurt. Why do guys now think that’s cute? I wanted to slug him. And what’s funny is that the more I did this to him, the more he kept coming back for more. Maybe he’s one of those guys that has girls throwing themselves at him and I didn’t do it so it was fun for him to “chase”. I don’t know. I couldn’t stand it and I didn’t want my friend to be hurt. I felt like I was back in high school with the jock guys that thought they were all that and would ask me to wear their football jerseys (like I am supposed to be honored), and then they were upset when I turned them down. I guess hard to get is the way to get attention, but that’s certainly not what I was trying to achieve. I wanted him to quit acting like an immature ass, because it was at my friend’s expense. Apparently these types of guys aren’t ready for a real woman that knows how she (and others) should be treated, and isn’t afraid to say so!

The only guy I had decent conversation with was a Vietnamese guy that I could barely understand who worked for Phillip Morris. Of course, I am thinking networking (at a college-like party–I know, I’m lame, but that’s what I was thinking). And of course it ends in him trying to get my number… and I’m sure it is not to get me a job. This is what is wrong with men and why good girls cannot find a decent one. If you want to get anywhere with me, try talking to me and not pull the “do you think I’m sexy line.” How lame is that! I’m not even looking for anyone and I have to be faced with this crap. Unfortunately, too many of the guys left feeling like I was probably a bitch, but I don’t care. They need to learn that this is not appropriate behavior and they should grow up. And what’s fucked up is that these people were my age and older… come on, seriously? Can’t they try to act like adults? Maybe that’s asking for too much in today’s society.